I don’t make New Year’s resolutions.
I used to, but somehow the things I resolved to do never got done.
Perhaps they were too big (learning a new language). Or too long term (knitting up all my stash yarn before buying more). Or just too darned optimistic (getting up early every morning to meditate).
Regardless, like almost all resolution-makers, I abandoned my ambitious plans for change long before the end of January. Instead of leading to a better, more positive me, those failed resolutions made me feel even worse about myself.
That being said, I still believe that the end of the year is a great time to reflect on where you are in your life. To celebrate the successes and examine the not-quite-successes of the last twelve months. To move forward by, in the words of my favourite yoga instructor (as we settle onto our mats and begin to turn our focus inward);
Letting go of whatever you’re holding on to that no longer serves you.
After a long, hard think (oh the things you can think*), I’ve identified three things that I need to let go of to move forward in my life.
- Occasional twinges of inadequacy. I am surrounded by rock stars. Bloggers who post more frequently and more profoundly than I do. Trainers and instructors who have more clients and a larger following than me. Moms whose children are calmer and better-behaved than mine. Facebook pages that have more ‘likes’. Friends who have bigger biceps and more defined delts. Anyone that can do unassisted pull ups!
I need to let these comparisons go. I am exactly who I need to be right now. I am enough.
- The tendency to put others’ fitness goals before my own. I love to workout in the morning. I have more energy and stamina then than another time of the day. Mornings are also the preferred training time of most of my clients and the most likely time other group fitness instructors are looking for subs. Frequently, I give up the hour I’ve scheduled for myself to teach a class or train a client who can’t possibly make it into the gym any other time that week. Some weeks, the only workouts I get in are during the classes I teach.
I need to stop putting myself second. To stop being so accommodating with my time. My fitness goals are just as important as everyone else’s.
- An all-or-nothing approach to fitness. During the past few months, my family has faced a number of health challenges. Both my husband and daughter spent time in hospital. My already busy schedule became more so. Often, I didn’t have an hour to get to the gym. Did I fit shorter workouts in? Not always, even though I know that even a little bit of exercise is better than none.
I need to let go of the idea that a workout doesn’t count unless it’s long and hard.
By letting go, I’ll be making room for more positive emotions and opportunities. I’m not expecting it to be easy (nothing worth anything ever is). But I know that I’ll still be trying come spring. Long after most New Year’s resolutions will have already been forgotten.
Do you make New Year’s resolutions? Do you keep them?
What do you need to let go of in your life?
*Seussical the Musical